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for the most part, i figure that if people want to be reckless, go ahead. image problems aside, their bad behavior has little effect on me.
however! my greatest pet peeve in the world has got to be bicyclists on the sidewalk. what do i do with them? they make me want to scream, "get on the effing street! you have wheels!" but - even when there are 'no bikes on sidewalk' signs *coughdowntownevanstoncough* - i just feel like a curmudgeony old woman that no one would listen to. am i irrational? is there a decent response to them?
I thought it might be fun to revive this thread, since we've gotten into an "annoying unsolicited advice-giver" thread in the Missed Connections thread.
I'm curious what people's thoughts might be, now that Divvy is active and ridership so visible at times/places, on when it's appropriate to "advise" other cyclists, and what it might be appropriate to "advise" them on.
It seems obvious that cycling etiquette advises against instructing fellow riders on "neural physiognomy." But it's also probably fair to say that "advice" like notes on form, adjustments, or tire pressure is unlikely to be wanted, since we're (or I am, at any rate) usually in a defensive mental mode when we're on the street and likely tuning a lot of unsolicited speech out. That's true even when it comes to "advice" that is about that other cyclist's safety, like on the proper way to wear a helmet or on the wisdom of riding with operative lights.
Lately, I've been finding myself inclined to chew out other cyclists when they (i) ride through red lights and directly into my path or (ii) ride handless or while operating phones/cameras on crowded sections of the LFP. I feel justified in doing so because those are actions that put me and others in danger. But that might be the "wrong" intuition. Is it really any of my business if some guy can't avoid a child running across the LFP because he's too busy texting? Or - can I really hope that my shouting at him is going to help?
What about Divvy riders? I know there are lots of commuters on Divvy who need no instruction. But tourists? Are we to a certain extent obliged to tell them not to salmon in packs downtown? Or to get off the sidewalks?
I suppose that's basically what I do. That generally seems to be how the unwritten social rules that we follow are developed and, over time, adhered to.
But I can think of a few non-cycling examples in my life where there are apparently well-established and broadly-followed rules that particular individuals just don't follow. Piles of leftovers in the communal fridge at work. Grunters at the gym. And so on. Those individuals apparently benefit, in their idiosyncratic, solipsistic ways, from the social norm that counsels against ever saying anything to them and leaving well enough alone. But is that something we ought to perpetuate? Is that norm of non-interference something we ought to observe?
In the cycling context - I agree, no one wants to listen to a lecture. Experiential wisdom would seem to support the conclusion that unsolicited lectures are seldom heeded. But then I wonder. I haven't immediately been receptive to felt criticisms of my own cycling behavior, in some cases that I can think of, but further reflection has sometimes led me to change my behavior, to be more considerate of others, or to try to puzzle out different habits. Is it possible we're all inclined to adapt, if only our non-conformity is pointed out to us - while none of us are highly inclined to do so, with one another?
Jeff Schneider said:
Nobody wants to listen to a lecture. The best you can do, whether cycling or driving, is:
1) Be prepared for the usual things the bad ones do - fail to yield, fail to signal, etc.;
2) Keep a safe distance from all other cyclists/drivers, giving yourself room to take evasive action. You never know in advance which ones are 'bad';
3) Stay calm when they do stupid stuff; slow down and yield to their stupidity as necessary;
4) Be a good example. Signal maneuvers; stay out of the door zone; yield to pedestrians, other cyclists and drivers as the law requires; smile and wave sometimes; have fun.
For cyclists, the most I'll say is "Be careful". If the response I get looks like the give a crap, or don't know what I'm talking about, I'll explain what they did that endangered themselves (or myself); e.g. "That van had no idea you were going to blow through that stop sign". Otherwise I leave it at that.
For cars that I catch up to at lights, I like to open with "I have three little girls at home". When they look at me dumbfounded I follow up with "I'd like to get home in one piece".
That usually gets the point across...
If it just so happens I choose to speak the bad cyclist, which I rarely do, I might call them a Genius or I may say "you're annoying".
I alternate between the obvious - "Red means stop. Don't ride like a jerk" or education "hey - when you pull up in front of someone like this at a light, it's called shoaling and it's considered really rude. I promise if you just hang back, I won't be in your way." Usually depends on the person and how savvy they are on their bike. Most folks I encounter doing something with poor etiquette don't seem to know better. I was ready to snap at this girl who kept shoaling me on Elston recently on this creaky old schwinn, and finally after 4 lights in a row + rolling part way into the Elston/Fullerton intersection, she admitted she was trying to stop but her brakes weren't really working. (WHAT?!)
I think I'm mostly frustrated by the people who make dumb choices that end up affecting me - like not signaling left or right, not checking behind you before cutting across or making a sudden move, or my favorite - anyone who suddenly stops their divvy bike in the middle of the lane. We're all on the same team here. Signaling intent and showing a little consideration for everyone around you isn't that hard.
I do my best to avoid giving unasked-for advice. The one bike-related exception I make is if I see someone locking their bike up really badly (e.g. through the front wheel only) - I don't want anyone to get their bike stolen.
For everyone else, my answer to the OP's question may be, if I do anything, "make fun of them on the internet" :)
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